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20-03-2018 07:52 AM
20-03-2018 07:52 AM
Re: Carers Hints and tips to Success
Hi @Hillsy ..... 👋 .... good to see you .....
@Susana .... hi .... hearing you Hon.
Have a look at this and see if it helps -
https://www.firstlighthomecare.com/blog/2013/11/13/caregiver-burnout/
It’s really important as carers that we balance our own welfare along with those we are caring for. This article explains a bit about “carer’s burnout”, which we are all prone to.
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20-03-2018 08:13 AM
20-03-2018 08:13 AM
Re: Carers Hints and tips to Success
Good article! Just need to have some clear boundaries right now in my caregiver role.
Being a dual carer almost means I don't get to take a mental break. When I'm not caring for my mum with MI, it's researching ways of supporting my son with autism.
Trying to stay as healthy as I can physically with exercise (before husband goes to work and everyone else is still asleep) and sleep. Mentally it's not easy for me to rest.... Even when I am not physically sing the caring when help is around....
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20-03-2018 08:30 AM
20-03-2018 08:30 AM
Re: Carers Hints and tips to Success
good morning @Susana, @Faith-and-Hope, @Hillsy, @outlander
Good article @Faith-and-Hope, I find getting the right balance is my problem
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20-03-2018 10:13 AM
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20-03-2018 11:14 AM
20-03-2018 11:14 AM
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I hear you. I have a disabled daughter for whom I am the carer, plus a husband with an mi that he is not aware he has - as yet undiagnosed for this reason - and now our two younger kidults are suffering various forms of anxiety and depression ...... one has been under a mental health team for a year ..... the other one has been bobbing along the surface and managing well enough to only have school counsellor and medical support, but she has recently started with a psych. The bottom line for me is that this is all support I didn’t have before.
Music and art are my two great escapes ..... and television movies ...... I also go for long walks in the outdoors where ai am feeling the breeze ..... often beside water as I find it calming ...... and distracted by things I see, and people watching.
We have recently relocated so my youngest two can relaunch their studies ...... although one deferred till next semester after a month. At our previous home, in our previous state, I used to look for dolphins in the river.
It takes practice and thinking about to plan your own escapes and distractions, but I can’t emphasise how important it is ......
“Who is caring for the carer ?”
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20-03-2018 12:47 PM
20-03-2018 12:47 PM
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You have a full plate!
Yes, it's true.... Who cares for the carer?
I have some ideas for distractions.... Maybe I will look upset some past favourite TV shows. 😁
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20-03-2018 02:16 PM
20-03-2018 02:16 PM
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20-03-2018 02:36 PM
20-03-2018 02:36 PM
Re: Carers Hints and tips to Success
Great ideas @outlander
I've not heard the term "expressed emotions" in that way and am doing researching. Though I have a sense of it as an abreaction/venting rather than constructive and mature emotional relating.
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20-03-2018 03:01 PM
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20-03-2018 06:12 PM
20-03-2018 06:12 PM
Re: Carers Hints and tips to Success
Where to start when one is overwhelmed? I started with somewhere where I could. Picking up one thing a day to start to try and get pur clutter under control, working up to 3 things, having coffee or lunch out when travelling to main centre for appts, adding in an occasional hair cut which eventually became more regular.