Looking after ourselves
- Mark Discussion as New
- Mark Discussion as Read
- Float this Discussion for Current User
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Printer Friendly Page
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
13-10-2019 02:47 AM
13-10-2019 02:47 AM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
Hi @Pearl146 and welcome to the forums.
My daughter in-law has bipolar challenges, and it makes things an ongoing struggle for her and my son, but it is what it is, and we try to build stability and positive experiences into whatever we can, whenever we can. It’s not easy though, and I often feel like this ....
.... particularly with what we have got going on under our own roof.
There is a section on the Caters Home page called Our Stories where you can start a thread around what is happening for you, if you want, and please tag me into it if you do. I have one called Need a Shoulder, from when I first arrived here three years ago, which I add to occasionally.
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
13-10-2019 05:26 PM
13-10-2019 05:26 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
Thank you, I have just had a thought that I might change my name to something less obvious. So I will start again and add my story on the carers page as you suggest.
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
15-11-2019 01:12 AM - edited 15-11-2019 01:16 AM
15-11-2019 01:12 AM - edited 15-11-2019 01:16 AM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
I haven’t participated in a forum like this before. My child is technically adult - 19 - but lives at home. Because of her illness, she’s begun swearing at her dad & me, telling us we’re terrible parents and she hates us. I know it’s not really her speaking, it’s her illness. But it still hurts so much I’m lying here crying instead of sleeping.
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
16-11-2019 04:12 PM
16-11-2019 04:12 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
I feel for you MamaBear1. I'm almost in the same situation although my daugher is a lot older than yours. It still hurts heaps though. Just keep reminding yourself that it's not her saying these thing, it's her illness. Look after yourself as much as you can too.
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
16-11-2019 04:20 PM
16-11-2019 04:20 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
hello @Kasey13 , @Faith-and-Hope , @Mamabear1 , @Pearl146 , @octavia , @Former-Member
remember to put a @ in front of members name so they will recieve the email meassage from you
@Kasey13, what you said is very true , it is their illnes and they do not really mean what they say
i will tag you to a thread called " Careres hints and tips "
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
16-11-2019 05:11 PM
16-11-2019 05:11 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
Thanks for that, I'll remember to tag.
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
16-11-2019 05:11 PM
16-11-2019 05:11 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
Thanks for that @Shaz51 , I'll remember to tag.
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
16-11-2019 05:14 PM
16-11-2019 05:14 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
means we can reply quicker @Kasey13 xx
how are you today
been thinking of you since your last message , it is hard my friend
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
16-11-2019 05:17 PM - edited 16-11-2019 05:18 PM
16-11-2019 05:17 PM - edited 16-11-2019 05:18 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
I'm feeling a little bit better today thanks @Shaz51 . The support on this Forum is very helpful. I've also made an appointment to get some counselling and although I can't get in for a few weeks, it feels like I'm doing something at least.
- Mark as New
- Favourite
- Subscribe
- Get link
- Flag for Moderator
16-11-2019 05:21 PM
16-11-2019 05:21 PM
Re: Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children
I've also made an appointment to get some counselling-- way to go my friend @Kasey13
I should do that too for me