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[JennyK]

I am so distressed & concerned for my daughter's health. I have handed her such good information for help & she argues she has tried & been left wanting. She sits at her place nearly every day just in comlete fear & anxiety. Maybe I need to step back? I'm recieving coucelling to help me through.

She is totally isolated at the moment with no firiends to talk.

[Pebbles]

Hi @JennyK

You sound very concerned for your daughter and her mental wellbeing at the moment and I can appreciate how frustrating it is when you offer help and information that isn't well recieved.

It's great to hear you are aware of your own limits and that you're having counselling to explore your story in more detail. 

It sounds like you and daughter talk which is great, spending time and trying to talk with her about some of the concerns you have (e.g. anxiety and isolation etc.) and how you might be able to help her get some support can be benefical. It would be interesting to get her perspective on the issues and whether she feels the frustration you do too. It’s important to approach this conversation in a very warm and compassionate way, perhaps using inclusive language like “we” or “I” rather than “you” to help him feel supported and not blamed or attacked. These are often hard conversations to have, but nonetheless very important points on the journey to recovery. It’s often quite overwhelming to think about trying to address issues with our mental health, so knowing she has your support will be a great help. Perhaps it might be helpful to plan a safe time to have this conversation when you know your daughter will be in a good mood and you won’t be interrupted or to write her a letter.

I’ve included a help link below to a fact sheet on effective communication that might be able to give you a few things to consider which can be found here. I’ve also included a link to a short article with some tips on taking care of yourself and others during this tough time which can be found here here

Information on anxiety can be found here

I hope some of this can be of astsitance to you @JennyK

Please keep us posted.

Pebbles x

[CherryBomb]

Hi @JennyK,

I just wanted to check in. How are things with your daughter?

CherryBomb