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[Lucky2]

Hello @Kkmum

i used to be like your son. I'm sorry your are going through this. It is very hard knowing its your son. Wish you could just say get a grip but it's your son and that's harder. 

I am couple years into my recovery of BPD. A thing that really helped me with my future wife she set herself boundaries really stood by them, that was difficult for me to cope with. But I realise that in doing that it help me regulate my emotions. As when I went out in the community I was regulating with everyone except her. So then when she did this it helped me to cope better, but in her doing this she did it lovingly and calmly knowing of my BPD. It made me look inside myself and started to question myself in wether I was doing this purposely or did I have more control than I thought I did. 

In saying this it has been a long process and there are still times when I feel like I've lost the plot. It's a constant thing I'm working on and I know I'm in control of all of this. I am empowered by all this now. Before I felt so lost and out of control. 

I hope he gets better.

take care @Kkmum