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Depressed boyfriend ended relationship

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Re: Depressed boyfriend ended relationship

@feilig08 it's very sad that he said you are the reason for his depression when you had a lovely relationship. 

As far as moving on, I feel like I have in some ways and not yet in others. I don't know if I'm ready to date just yet or move on in that regard but I rarely cry anymore and sleep fine etc. Time really does heal us, when I look back at how I was 7 months ago when it first and how I am now I feel like I'm back to my normal happy self and looking forward to the future and possibly meeting someone new. 

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Hi @feilig08 and welcome to the forum .... 👋

I have followed along with the conversation a little bit, but I don’t think I could say anything better than @Anna88  has.  As painful as it is, it seem that the ball is in his court whether to pick up contact with you again or not, and only time will tell.  You will have to decide how long you are prepared to wait, so making sure you are looking after yourself and your own interests in the meantime is really important.  Something or someone else might come your way that takes your life in a different direction, you never know, but it is really hard to sit with the not-knowing.

Hugs for your situation .....

 

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@Faith-and-Hope@Anna88Thank you for your replies. You are wonderful!

I will wait and see what happens and what he will want. But it s just hard at the moment to stay away from him. I always have this urge to call him or text him to see how he is. I know he somehow isolated from people cause that`s what he does and i`m sorry for him.

I have to focus on myself first then see what happens.

I wish you all the best. And maybe we will stay in touch if you want that too.

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@feilig08 best of luck and don't hesitate to message on here again if you want someone to chat too or anymore advice

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@Anna88 Have you ever thought of calling or texting him to see how he is, if he got help?

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@feilig08 Yep I've thought about it a million times haha, but in my situation my ex said to me if I contacted him he would feel pressure about getting back together when he's trying to get better. So I haven't contacted him because of that.

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@Anna88 I admire you so much. You are so strong because you respected his decision. I couldn't do that, when he asked me for no contact i couldn't help myself and called a few times. But now we haven't talked for a month because i know it only makes it worse. But it's really hard actually. I wish one day he will want to talk to me again, if not to be together again.

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@feilig08 thank you but I don't think I was that strong haha. I guess I thought by me not talking to him as he requested I would be giving us the best chance of getting back together. I believed in the beginning that he would eventually call and say he made a mistake but in my situation it's been about 6 months since I last heard from him so I dont believe I ever will.