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Krishna
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Daughter Catatonic

After 7 months in hospital for catatonic schizophrenia my girl was still refusing visits or calls from me so I took the plunge and visited her unannounced. Heartbreaking. She did not recognise me, a complete stranger to her, was nervous, dark and silent, flinching when I placed my hand on her shoulder. Nothing I said could convince her I was her mum. My tears flowed at this response and there was no sign of the beautiful compassionate daughter I once had. After only 10 minutes, she escorted me out of her room. I asked the social worker if this memory loss was related to the 20 ECTs she received for her catatonia or is it related to her illness? They couldn't say. So that was it. Does anyone here have a similar story? The following day, despite my girl being so unwell I was advised they have discharged her into accommodation on her own for the next 7 days and acute care team will visit each day to check on her. She still retains memory of how to shop, atm, etc. and they want to see how she'll manage on her own. She must be feeling so very alone not remembering her family or friends. I have to trust the process I suppose but my heart aches for her. 

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Oh @Krishna !!!!!!

 

I am so very sorry. My heart is breaking for you. I have no experience around this so I can't shed any light, but from the absolute bottom of my heart I send you an abundance of love and hope and strength. I am actually crying for you as I cannot even begin to imagine how this would feel other than such loss and sadness. I am here for you if you need a shoulder Krishna. xox

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@Krishna 

 

oh God.. I weep as does @Anastasia 

 

virtual hugs and real prayers

 

xoxo

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Oh @Anastasia @SJT63  thank you so much for the love and so sorry I made you cry 😢. As always, I live in hope that one day???? 

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@Krishna  Krishna here was I hoping that no news was good news .... am so sorry things are going so tough for you and your daughter. Life shouldnt be like this. Am here sweetheart if you want. Love always peaxxxxHeart

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Hi @greenpea Really didn't think things could get any worse hey. On my visit I expected maybe fear, anger hopefully joy at seeing me and cuddles but not in my wildest dreams did I expect this. Still in shock really and trying to come to terms with it all. No answers from the team but very sympathetic. I don't know how I managed the 6 hour return drive but hey we mammas are a strong breed. And then to be called the following day to be told about the discharge, well what another surprise to add to the mix. I won't know until tomorrow how she managed overnight and today by herself as of course not replying to calls or txt bless her. So trying very hard to remain positive and busy and herbal teas to keep the nausea from worry at bay. So tomorrow is another day, waiting for a phone call to fill me in on her wellbeing. Thanks Pea. Love to you and much gratitude xxx

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Such a heavy load to carry dear @Krishna 

I have you in my thoughts. Hoping tomorrow you get some ok news. Sending you love 🙏💞

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Thank you @Anastasia  💜

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@Krishna  I have been thinking of you and wondering how much support you have for your own mental wellbeing. Do you have close family or friends who can help you during this time? This is a huge burden for you.  Maybe even seeing a psychologist would help. Love peaxxx

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Hi @greenpea  My darling husband and I are coping as best we can, supporting each other through this. I have seen a psychologist as my anxiety levels at times skyrocket leading to panic attacks but I am slowly learning how to manage these with breath work. Family has been a disappointment I must admit and although we have a handful of close friends, it's not something I bring up very often as I don't think they fully comprehend. So Pea, we are hanging on day by day but yes it has taken it's toll. As you know, some days are better than others. Much love xx

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