@Stargirl @tyme She may even have a special loyalty to people going through hard times or different subcultures. The gulf between those that have and have not can seem so wide.
I will never lose my inner connection to the experience of homelessness, but now I make active choices whether to give practically or emotionally about it. At one point I started to test myself by not partaking of drink of smoke etc while still being with others that did, but eventually just lost interest and left that way of life, even allow myself to feel annoyed by cigarette smoke.
I too, have found meaning in a cat at different times .... I would never have bought meat for me at the time, but put up with the yukky smell of liver for mine.
The old pulling up sox saying, can work within a genuine framework of care, like your friend stargirl, but sometimes, it does not help. It is tricky. I am not sure your daughter can do that right now, from what you have shared ... so yes some boundaries of care and respect ... both ways ... may be necessary.
