Hi @Shaz51 and others.
@Shaz51 I’m sorry you didn’t feel like eating dinner😢. I hope by now you’ve managed to eat something, no matter how small as you need food to help keep you healthy, especially mentally healthy.
You are definitely one of the most caring, thoughtful, respectful, honest, nicest people I know and I’m so glad to have you in my life! Don’t worry about what other people say about you being too nice. That’s a great quality to have and I’d be proud of it! I find you to have lots of knowledge on many different topics and I love how you willingly share it across the forums to so many different forum members and groups. That’s special and don’t you fidget it!
As for being a people pleaser, I will admit that I’m known to engage in that behaviour at times, especially around times of conflict which I’m scared of. Sometimes , I’ll agree to something just to keep that person happy or to get some peace and to avoid any negative consequences, like more arguments for example. I do however, often feel bad for doing it because often I’ve made the other person happy at my expense which hurts me as well in the long run. Does this make any sense at all? I do find it hard to stick up for myself around people in authority and people I don’t know as I’m scared they’re right and that I’ll only get into trouble if I challenge them or the situation which goes back to my childhood trauma of living through domestic and family violence as a child. Again, I think this also has something to do with my mental illnesses as well to be honest.
I hope I’ve provided you and others with some helpful things in this discussion!
Take care!
Judi9877☺️💐
